My fiance is getting soooo laid tonight…
I used to really struggle with being able to allow a partner to care for me, which actually caused a lot of issues in my current relationship in the beginning.
It felt vulnerable, scary, embarrassing, and I thought I was opening myself up to the potential to be disappointed – no thanks!
But one of the ways that my fiancé shows me love is through acts of service – he does the dishes, brings me a glass of water, and makes me lunch when he’s making some for himself
So as I was sitting in the kitchen today, totally immersed in my work flow, he made me lunch and in that moment I felt so damn loved
I didn’t used to let myself feel that – I had these beliefs that I shouldn’t allow a partner to take care of me and by holding onto those beliefs, I was cock-blocking myself from receiving a ton of pleasure
This cock-blocking was of course not isolated to events outside of the bedroom (it never is) – I rarely communicated openly whether I was able to finish or not, what felt good, and struggled to ask for what I wanted.
Allowing yourself to receive pleasure, in the bedroom or out of it, is key to you experiencing the turn-on that you crave.
When you’re minimizing your pleasure, you’re quieting that sexy, sensual, beautiful part of you that so desires to be seen.
When my fiancé made me lunch, it was a simple act of care that was absolutely foreplay because it allowed me to experience and receive pleasure. So yeah, he’s definitely getting it later 😉🔥💋
Calee Shea is a Holistic Health Practioner based in Atlanta, Georgia. She is your go-to gal for all things periods, vaginal health, and sex.