Our cycles affect everything from mood swings and libido to emotional needs and can even affect who we’re attracted to.
“A woman evaluates her relationship differently at different times in her cycle and her evaluation seems to be colored by how sexually attractive she perceives her partner to be,” says Martie Haselton, psychology and communications professor at UCLA.
🌑 Menstruation (From day 1 of your bleed until the end of your period) – During this time you may feel withdrawn and introspective and this is probably not the best time to plan a date. Although, at this time of the month an orgsm (or a few) may help reduce physical pain such as cramps and headaches. TLC is the name of the game during this phase. Ask to be romanced and pampered.
🌗 Follicular (From the end of your period until ovulation) – Energy and mood get a major boost, making us feel stronger, confident, and we get a surge in testosterone that increases libido. This is a great time for an active date like hiking or going on a trip for a long weekend.
🌕 Ovulation (Typically around 14 days from the first day of your period) – Fertility is high, and you’re going to FEEL IT. You’re likely to feel more connected to your partner as well. Sx is going to be on the brain. Go dancing, get out and about, try something new.
🌓 Luteal (After ovulation to the beginning of your period, lasts no more 16 days) – The first half of this phase, you’re still probably reeling from ovulation, but with all that yummy progesterone you got from ovulating – towards the end of this phase your libido is likely to drop and you’ll find yourself just feeling calmer. Practice self-care this week. Let your partner know that you may need some extra stimulation to get aroused.
As our hormones fluctuate throughout each phase of our cycle, it is helpful for our partner/s to be tuned into the changes so share this with your crush, FWB, life partner, soulmate, etc 👩💻
Calee Shea is a Holistic Health Practioner based in Atlanta, Georgia. She is your go-to gal for all things periods, vaginal health, and sex.